convergence? is this some new age thing?

"Convergence" is the name we've come up with for these choose-your-own-adventure gatherings we've been hosting. The idea is that, for a weekend, or a week, or longer, we all enjoy a vacation in the same scenic coastal village, but everything is in walking distance, so we can each stay in the environment we like - an ocean view apartment, "glamping" near the beach, a secluded jungle palapa, or a house in town shared with friends - but meet up for meals or activities or entertainment when we feel like it.

It's been a blast, which is why what we thought would be a once-per-decade anniversary/birthday party instead became the launch of this event series - we didn't want to wait another ten years to do it again. The overall recipe has been a hit, but each time we're learning something new and doing our best to make it even better than before.

palm tree silhouette against evening blue sky

what's happening?

We're aiming for the best of both worlds: you do whatever you want to do (or just relax) on your vacation; we provide some bonus meals and entertainment to choose from; and there are other cool people to do things with if you like.

Two shared hangout spaces have been reserved for an entire week, plus the weekends on either end, for all guests to use. One has a pool, and the other one is right by the cove, closer to the town pier and restaurants. Both houses are centrally located with great views, and both will be stocked with coffee, tea, some snacks, seltzer, beer, and margarita ingredients, as well as a few games. If you feel like it during the day you can go to either place to meet up with people before a meal or activity, or to dip in the pool or play a round of Fluxx or just enjoy a change of scenery. 



These shared houses feature some sleeping quarters that we are offering to guests at a steeply discounted sliding-scale flat rate - some of them starting as low as zero dollars. If you are open to sharing common areas with other guests, one of these might be perfect for you.

  • There are a handful of king bedrooms with a/c, ceiling fans, and ocean views, and
  • there are also a few semi-private loft-style or suite-style sleeping areas with queen beds.

If you'd like to know more about the rooms we've set aside for guests, get in touch and we can send you photos and more information.



There'll be at least one optional activity or gathering every day we're there, as well as an optional suggested place to meet up for dinner and/or brunch. Join in those if you're in the mood for it, or do your own thing.  And if you or other guests want to invite the rest of us to meet up for a swim or walk or kayaking or yoga or whatever, or host a sunset toast or jam session or games night at your place or one of the shared hangout spaces, we can help with getting the word out.



We'll host a festive dinner on the main celebration weekend, and will treat everyone who's around on the previous weekend to a meal as well.  Depending on what people are interested in, we'll arrange for some other entertainment too, possibly a boat trip with whale watching or snorkeling opportunities, or whatever else seems most appealing.



Again, it's all optional. We'll only ask for firm RSVPs in advance for events and places that cost us a non-trivial sum to provide (e.g. catered meals, entertainment that involves hiring a boat or buying tickets in advance, or housing we have reserved) or that significantly affect other guests' plans (e.g. claiming one of the subsidized bedrooms we set aside for guests).

who's coming?

Your friends and family are invited too. Anyone you're traveling with is welcome to any of the meals, spaces, or entertainment we're providing for guests.

At least one of us is an introvert, so even though we can personally vouch for how awesome the other guests are, we would never want to impose unwanted togetherness on anyone. Whether you want to spend your time mostly on your own or you get a kick out of meeting new people and want to meet up for games or swimming or singing by the fire or dancing in town, our intention is that you can choose whatever level of sociability and structure you're most comfortable with.

where's the party?

Yelapa, Jalisco, Mexico, is a rustic car-free village about 30-40 minutes from Puerto Vallarta by boat. To get there, fly to PVR, take a cab or bus to Los Muertos pier or Boca de Tomatlán, and catch a water taxi to Yelapa. Once you're in Yelapa, everything is in walking distance, though there are ATV taxis if you're in a hurry or not inclined to walk.

For nature and wildlife lovers, Yelapa is fantastic, especially in the spring, with amazing birds and flowers all over, and sometimes even sightings of whales, dolphins, and manta rays from shore, or enlivening the water taxi ride from Vallarta. It would take too long for us to list all the species we regularly see there, but we can send you a list or a link if you're interested, and there will be more information on a website later.

Yelapa is part of a land grant comunidad indigena, collectively owned by five indigenous families for many generations, so while foreigners and people from other parts of Mexico may hold long-term leases to operate businesses in Yelapa, all of the land in Yelapa is under the stewardship of native Yelapenses. The local culture is an interesting blend, heavily influenced by those five founding families and a sprinkling of bohemian expats from the west coast of the U.S. and Canada.

Mexico in general is a feast for the senses, especially the taste buds, and for a small town, Yelapa has more than its share of decent restaurants. If you like Mexican food or seafood you will have a great abundance of places to choose from, and there are also plenty of vegetarian and vegan meal options as well as a variety of non-Mexican cuisine.

High temperatures in March usually reach the mid-80s F during the day and lows at night tend to be in the 60s with a breeze. The water in the bay is usually warm enough for swimming year-round, and most of the town is on the north-facing side of the cove so it's easy to limit sun exposure if desired.

Popular activities include hiking, swimming, snorkeling, paragliding, parasailing, kayaking, boat excursions on the bay, yoga classes, Spanish language classes, writers' groups, massage, singalongs and jam sessions, and dancing, among other things. Or if those sound too intense, there's always the option to chill in a hammock and read a book, or just listen to the ocean.

Yelapa is not everyone's cup of tea - it's rustic, there's a lot of walking, there aren't a lot of cultural sites to visit or nightlife opportunities (though March is high season), and the beach is perfectly fine for sunning and swimming but not pristine white sand.  But we love it there, as do a growing number of our friends, and if you decide to check it out we hope you will too.

save the dates!

  • If you can only come for one long weekend, the weekend of 3/16-17 is the one we'd recommend. We'll host at least one festive dinner that weekend, most likely Saturday evening 3/16, but details TBD. We will treat guests to some sort of meal on the previous weekend as well.
  • If you have a full week, we have reserved two shared gathering spaces that will be available for all of us to use for an entire week plus the weekends on either end, Friday March 8th to Monday March 18th.  Those are the dates when the sleeping quarters in the shared hangout rentals are available, though we may have a spare bed or two elsewhere on other nights as well.

  • Have time for a longer vacation? The two of us and we believe at least one or two other guests will be in the area from Tuesday, March 5 to Tuesday, March 19, so if you stay longer you'd have the option of at least some company during those two weeks.


Because Semana Santa 2024 (Holy Week, Palm Sunday to Easter) is the last week in March, and flights and rentals book up and/or become very expensive then, and the full moon in April is a total solar eclipse, which will also make flights and lodgings scarce and pricey, the 2024 convergence will not coincide with the full moon, but we hope the toads will sing for us anyway.

why?

We love hanging out with you.

We love Yelapa.

We'd especially love hanging out with you (again) in Yelapa.

When we held a party for our 10th anniversary and S's 50th birthday in 2020, just in the nick of time before lockdown began, we thought it was a once-per-decade thing, but we had so much fun that by popular demand we did another one in 2022 - with shorter notice and a few more logistical challenges due to COVID-19 uncertainties. Everyone at that one agreed we should do it again in 2024, and this time we're able to provide more advance notice as well as a 2nd hangout space and more bedrooms. 

We've really enjoyed seeing friends who met at the 2020 Full Moon Fiesta and the 2022 Convergence hit it off and stay in touch, and look forward to more new connections forming and old friendships deepening at the 2024 convergence.

bonus bike adventure and other particulars

bonus bike adventure

For those who share B's love for bicycling, she will probably be leading a bike excursion starting on the morning of March 6, probably something less intense than last year's, possibly involving an overnight or two in another nearby coastal town (maybe something like the mini-tour she did for her 50th birthday). This would most likely involve renting mountain bikes in Vallarta and sharing the costs of a vehicle and driver to carry luggage and gear.  Ask B if you're interested in more information as plans develop for the bike mini-tour.

S and probably at least one or two other friends will be in Yelapa while the cyclists are on their excursion, so if someone in your group wants to do the bike thing and others don't, there'll be company and entertainment either way. Update: If you are interested in the bike adventure and haven't yet contacted Bonnie, she is arranging rides and meals and overnight stays based on the number of people, so you will need to get in touch ASAP to make sure the vehicle has room for the right number of bicycles, and the bike shop has bikes for everyone, etc.

traveling on a budget

We'd like to make this gathering as accessible as possible, so if you can get to Yelapa, we will do our best to connect you with a place to stay that fits your budget, and if you can pick your dates well in advance, we may be able to provide very affordable or possibly even free basic accommodations for you - let us know which days and what you're looking for.

In our experience, travel in Mexico is generally a great value, and while Yelapa is near the tourist-centered beach resorts of Puerto Vallarta, one can enjoy vacation to the fullest relatively cheaply there.

COVID-19 considerations

Most buildings including restaurants in Yelapa are open to the breeze (with partial walls, and/or no glass in windows, and/or one side open to the ocean) or are completely outdoors, and the houses we reserved as shared hangout spots are very well ventilated. We recommend keeping an N95 mask on for the entire flight and for your cab or bus ride to the pier and back. Once you are on the water taxi there should be plenty of ventilation, but we advise keeping a mask in your pocket in case you find yourself wanting to duck into a store where other people are shopping or a more enclosed baño at a restaurant.

kids

If your party includes kids, there may not be other guests in their age group, but Yelapa is pretty kid-friendly and we will do our best to make sure everyone of all ages has a great time.

mobility issues

If you have mobility issues, there are ATVs providing taxi service in town, and some rentals and restaurants are on the main path level with no stairs required. If you stay in the right place and use ATV taxis when needed, you could enjoy Yelapa without doing a lot of walking or climbing a lot of stairs, but we would not recommend Yelapa if you have severe mobility issues.

smooth sailing

Banderas Bay is quite calm compared to the open ocean, and seasickness is not a common problem on the water taxis. But if you tend to get motion sickness even on very calm water, there are larger Vallarta Adventures tour boats that come to Yelapa from Vallarta most days, so it is possible to avoid smaller boats if desired.

ASL interpreting

If you require ASL interpreting for communication access, please let us know as early as possible and we will do our best to accommodate you. If you are traveling with an interpreter we may be able to cover some of their expenses.

no hablan español?

Obviously if you don’t know the language, you will not benefit as much from the cultural opportunities in Mexico or anywhere else, and you may not be able to communicate with any given person you encounter on the street.

Puerto Vallarta is a tourist destination, so taxi drivers, airport staff, and restaurant staff will know enough English for all basic transactions. Likewise in Yelapa, you will be able to conduct essential business at restaurants and water taxis without knowing Spanish.

An app like Reverso Context or SpanishDict might come in handy if your Spanish language skills are lacking.

anything else?

If there's something else you're wondering about that we might not have thought of, please ask. We will do our best to accommodate you.

Closer to the event we will solicit info on your entertainment preferences, allergies, food and beverage preferences and sensitivities, and any other info you'd want us to know that could help us provide good hospitality, but feel free to bring up anything on your mind sooner.

what to bring?

We'll circulate a full packing list closer to the event, but you'll definitely want to bring comfortable warm-weather attire, at least one flashlight per person, good walking shoes, enough cash for meals (there are no ATMs in Yelapa, but cabs in Vallarta will stop at an ATM on the way to the water taxi), swim and snorkel gear if you plan to go in the water, and sun protection.

what to do in advance?

  • Choose a place to stay ASAP.
  • Set price alerts or look into frequent flyer mile options for flights to PVR.
  • Make sure your passport is up to date.
  • Check into international roaming plans or virtual SIM cards for your mobile device.
  • Find out if your credit union or bank will sell you pesos ($MXN) if you don't want to stop at an ATM on the way to the water taxi.
And to the extent possible, please keep us posted on your plans so we can make informed decisions about meals and entertainment.

more info TBD

We're hoping to have a full event website ready soon(ish), but wanted to get you the dates now so you'll have the option of using airline miles for travel and the fullest range of rentals to choose from.

For now, we recommend go2yelapa.com and yelapa.info for the basics on traveling to Yelapa.